Ways To Spend Less Time Doing Housework - The Not Perfect Housewife (2023)

FAQs

How do I stop housework hurting my marriage? ›

Sit down together and make a list of the chores that each of you absolutely hates to do. 17 What one hates, the other may be able to tolerate. If both of you detest the same chore, then figure out a way to compromise in getting this particular unpleasant task done.

So, Should Stay-At-Home Moms Be Doing All of the Housework? The majority says “No”. 80.4% of husbands to SAHMs are helping with the housework whether they are doing it on their own or being asked to help.

In one study, for instance, about 25 percent of recently divorced people said that disagreements over housework represented the primary reason for the dissolution of the marriage. However, buying time—such as by paying for a housecleaner—may not prevent divorce in all couples.

It might mean you are busy and have little time to clean and organize. It might be a sign that you have too much stuff. Or it might be the result of having young kids in the house who are usually not motivated to clean up after themselves.

"It's human nature to avoid or put off tasks that don't hold personal value," she says. "If cleaning is far down on your list of priorities, you may surely procrastinate when it comes to doing the dishes or taking cleanser to that buildup in the tub."

If there's any health advice you're going to take today, let this be it: stop doing so much housework. A recent study by Australian National University found that people should only being working 39 hours a week. This includes the amount of time you work at your job and all of the time you spend on household chores.

Scientists have found that a cluttered environment makes it harder to focus and can increase feelings of stress, which, in turn, means that feeling unable to face our chores can quickly become a cycle that leaves us feeling overwhelmed.

How do I cut down on housework? ›

How often should a stay-at-home mom get to kick back and relax? A stay-at-home mom should take a break at least three times a day: once before her kids wake up, once after lunch, and after the kids go to bed. A mom of toddlers or babies should add a mid-morning and mid-afternoon break.

Staying at home with your kids is HARDER than going into work, new study finds. Don't ever underestimate the challenges a stay-at-home mom faces on a daily basis. In fact, new research has found that many people find staying at home with your children HARDER than going into work!

Some couples choose to divide the tasks equally, while others assign proportionally more tasks to one partner who perhaps has a less demanding career or a greater desire to get things done. The second strategy is turn-taking. Here you share responsibility for each task, taking turns as to who does what.

Yes. It's a division of labor. If your husband works outside of the home, but you don't, your job is to take care of domestic matters.

Helping out around the house also helps your relationship. Being helpful around the house will go a long way toward strengthening your loving relationship. This is because your wife or girlfriend will see you as attentive, loving, and committed.

Psychologically, a messy room can represent:

A disorganized mind. Feeling overwhelmed. Difficulty letting go (common for hoarding behaviors) Trouble focusing on a task.

“People who are 'messy' may have not been taught organising skills, grew up in a cluttered environment, or have some other factors that inhibit their organisation skills such as ADHD.” How messy or tidy you're feeling can also correlate with your mental health.

If you feel overwhelmed when cleaning, maybe you just have too much stuff to organize. One of the biggest lessons I have learned is that you cannot welcome new things into your life if you don't release some of the old stuff. You need to begin to purge things from your life.

How do I push myself to clean? ›

People with depression can often find themselves living in messy spaces. This is because feelings of hopelessness, low energy, and lack of motivation can make it hard to keep on top of everyday tasks, such as tidying.

Clutter bombards our minds with excessive stimuli (visual, olfactory, tactile), causing our senses to work overtime on stimuli that aren't necessary or important. Clutter distracts us by drawing our attention away from what our focus should be on. Clutter makes it more difficult to relax, both physically and mentally.

Clutter in the living room might suggest blockages in your social life, as well as your relationship with yourself, while a cluttered bedroom might relate to issues surrounding your sexual self, fears of intimacy or gender roles.

While extreme messiness can be the result of depression or behavioral issues, extreme organization can be a sign of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Teens with OCD experience intense anxiety if anything in their room or their surroundings is out of place.

Listen, understand and compromise

While you negotiate, ask them what it is about housework they struggle with. Rather than assuming the worst – that they're just lazy or disrespectful – find out what is really going on, says Quilliam.

Some couples choose to divide the tasks equally, while others assign proportionally more tasks to one partner who perhaps has a less demanding career or a greater desire to get things done. The second strategy is turn-taking. Here you share responsibility for each task, taking turns as to who does what.

It might mean you are busy and have little time to clean and organize. It might be a sign that you have too much stuff. Or it might be the result of having young kids in the house who are usually not motivated to clean up after themselves.

Communicate and confront her

Initiate the conversation and openly discuss the matter. Tell her what you think about her attitude and ask her about her possible problems. Inquire about her physical and mental well-being. For example, people suffering from depression tend to feel very lethargic.

How do you live with someone who doesn't clean? ›

In 37% of U.S. households, the woman primarily pays the bills, while in 34% of households, the man does. Planning family activities is the only task that is reported as being shared equally by a majority, 52%. In households that don't share the job, women are more likely to be responsible (37%) than are men (10%).

Yes. It's a division of labor. If your husband works outside of the home, but you don't, your job is to take care of domestic matters.

Clutter bombards our minds with excessive stimuli (visual, olfactory, tactile), causing our senses to work overtime on stimuli that aren't necessary or important. Clutter distracts us by drawing our attention away from what our focus should be on. Clutter makes it more difficult to relax, both physically and mentally.

It is a symptom of one of the many subtypes of obsessive compulsive disorder. Sufferers of compulsive cleaning may have a pervasive feeling of contamination by dirt, germs environmental contaminants, or chemical toxins. They may fear getting ill or contracting certain diseases, such as the flu, cancer, or HIV.

Those with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) will have a great need or compulsion to clean or perform cleaning rituals to feel in control. When they cannot keep up with these things, they feel like their lives are falling apart. The good news is that there is help for those who struggle with OCD.